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Decision to Trust – Part Three

Leadership is a journey, going rebel is the way

by Domenico Pinto | 09 December 2021

This article was originally published at domenicopinto.com

 

“Leadership requires five ingredients–brains, energy, determination, trust, and ethics. The key challenges today are in terms of the last two–trust and ethics.”
Fred Hilmer

Have you ever misjudged someone based on the simple fact that you were having a bad day/week, that someone else previously failed you in a similar situation or because you had a preconceived idea about that person?

It happens we are human, and even as leaders, we do make such mistakes.

Many times, we believe we are being rational and neutral but in fact, we are acting on emotion, prejudice, and fear.

Even when someone does make a mistake and you, as a leader, feel the need to discuss it, how do you do it? How do you handle the situation?

A practice I find quite relevant, and this is something that is very dear to the Semco Style Institute, is having adult to adult conversations. We’re all adults in organisations, and if you reflect on it for a second, you too have already been scolded about a mistake that happened at work. Someone automatically made assumptions about your work and performance and judged you based on that.

Imagine you were treated as an adult in those situations. Would it have been any different?

One of the leaders I’ve coached had an incident in his company. Luckily, he decided to handle it differently and used some of the practices he had learnt; instead of making a decision and going straight into solution-mode, he did a rebel move into a new leadership style.

Leader: “I am going to have an adult-to-adult conversation with my staff, tell them why they disappointed me, how this actually is impacting me and why we need to change things.”

Me: “What next?”

Leader: “Well, next, I would love to hear their perspective on it. And I would love to hear how they suggest it should be solved. In other words, I don’t want to problem-solve for them. But I want to share my thoughts, share my point of view, in terms of why it’s bothering me, not what we should do, and see what the team thinks we could do, and how we feel about it. Maybe I’m completely wrong and being irrational but I will try doing it differently this time.”

Fast forward a couple of hours and I was in a team meeting shadowing this leader.

And, very interestingly, as I was looking around the room, I could tell everyone knew what was coming.

They just didn’t expect it to happen the way it did. They were expecting the leader (a parent figure) to come in and say: you have done this wrongly, you’re going to be punished now.

Ironically, no one had thought about how their actions impacted the leader and the owner of the business. And when the leader came forward and did exactly what he told me he would do, it was amazing to see how everyone not only assumed their responsibility but also took charge of seeking solutions to improve the workplace.

“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves”.
Lao Tzu

The staff members were looking around and you could sense this feeling of: Is this really happening? Is he really asking us? And so, they asked him: “So what do you think is the solution?”

It was interesting to see how he resisted it for a second to let go of control but stood his ground and let them come up with solutions.

Fast forward again, the team actually started taking control and engaging in a conversation: “How should we solve it? What is your point of view?”

The next thing that I saw happening was that, not only were they actively listening to the leader and perceiving themselves as one, but they had already removed the invisible power distance, the ‘us and them’ in the whole team.

A couple of days after, the team came up with a solution that was much more effective than anything that either the leadership team or I, as a consultant, could have come up with to solve the issue.

“Leadership is an action, not a position.”
Donald McGannon

The truth is that leadership is not necessarily one thing that can be traced, there is no one pathway to becoming a leader. It’s not theory, it’s practice. Leadership is to be lived and learned, it is a journey, and it is everywhere.

If we assume that leadership is everywhere, that everyone is human, and that humans make mistakes, that’s when we realise we’ve all been on that journey.

I had once a leader that I looked up to and really enjoyed working for.

On a Monday, we were having a catch-up and I said “By the way, I met Amanda over the weekend. I didn’t know her, but she said she worked for you eight years ago.”

And that leader looked at me puzzled and replied “Oh, Amanda”.

I realised that comment had disturbed her and asked her, “What is it about Amanda?”

She then replied “The time I was in charge of Amanda, I was the worst version of myself. I wasn’t an emotional leader. I was a micromanager. And I was just controlling everything.”

This is one of the most inspirational leaders I’ve worked for, someone I learned a lot from. Would I have worked for her again? Without a doubt.

Yet, the leader I got to know is a completely different person than the leader that someone else got to know. And that’s where I truly understood that leadership is a journey.

”People follow leaders by choice. Without trust, at best you get compliance.”
Jesse Lyn Stoner

Now back to trust: why is that important in relationships to trust? Because the trust you gained by being an unconventional and ethical leader, is completely different from the trust you earn when acting and responding in a traditional way.

Why is that? Going back to my previous story, the leader literally told the team: we have an issue, but we trust that if I bring this up to you, you can solve it. He showed them he trusted the team despite them having previously made a mistake. And he trusted them enough to let go of the reins and hand the problem for them to solve.

And again, a couple of months forward and the issue was solved.

The team still remembers and thinks of that moment as a pivotal moment.  Because right at that moment, people knew that something was changing in the company, something they hadn’t seen happen before.

For those of you who have been on this journey of changing the way you work and starting to trust your people, are there also any milestones to be captured?

“The single most important ingredient in the recipe for success is transparency because transparency builds trust.”
Denise Morrison

And as a leader, there’s another important trait you must work on to be able to build trust: transparency.

I’ll introduce the theme by recalling Simon Sinek on the importance of taking into account the why behind every action we take. The why plays an important role in having the people we work with cooperate with the tasks and goals at hand.

And this is where transparency is key: when we let our staff know why we are asking them to do something, it changes their perception of the work they need to do.

Why? Because trust is built at that moment, when with real transparency, the end purpose of a given goal or task is clearly and honestly explained.

“I believe inspiring trust with transparency and tenacity is the keystone to doing business.”
Ashwin Muthiah

Let’s assume it’s Friday afternoon. Picture yourself in a situation where your boss calls you in and says, “Hey, I’m just leaving for a minute but will need you to stay back in the office until I come back, ok? Thank you, see you soon!”

No why whatsoever. No transparency, right?

Let’s imagine the same situation but now the conversation starts with the why: “Hey, I just got some bad news about the business over the weekend which may potentially affect us in the long-term. Over the next few weeks, we have some tough decisions to make. I would really appreciate it if you could stay back a little bit longer today. I’m keen to hear your perspective on it and see how we can work it through together.”

A very different approach.

“Confidentiality and transparency are not mutually exclusive, but rather two sides of the same coin.”
Thomas de Maziere

Yet transparency doesn’t finish there. As a leader, you can also talk about transparency, for example, when it comes to salaries in business.

You might have your reasons why not to share this information – and that’s the flip side of transparency. Transparency in leadership can become challenging when you don’t know how to not share information.

If you want to be truly transparent, you also need to be transparent about the fact that you cannot be transparent about something. And that again builds trust: when we’re not being transparent, people will fill in the gaps.

Taking the same example as before, you are waiting in the office for your boss to come back.

In your mind, you are creating all these possible scenarios for why you needed to stay behind. Rather than taking that time to work on something else, you over-worry yourself.

He could have simply told you: “Hey, would you mind staying back in the office? You don’t have to worry about anything, it’s not about your work. I just can’t be transparent about it right now because it’s a sensitive topic, but I will need your help. I would really appreciate it if you stayed for a while longer.”

 That’s being truly transparent, even when you can’t be transparent.

“Leaders establish trust with candour, transparency and credit.”
Jack Welch

 By being honest and telling the truth, you send your staff the message that they can trust you and that they themselves are free to be as open and sincere as you are.

And as you can conclude from the example above, when you treat people with respect and are accountable for what you do and what you say and make them accountable as well, you establish a bridge between you and your team allowing trust to be built and maintained.

Another important ingredient for building trust and success in your business is humility.

Giving people the credit they deserve and making sure they are being acknowledged for the success you achieve as an organisation or team is a motivational factor that should not be undervalued. You are only as good as a leader the more successful and happy your whole team is.

I could go on and on about the theme of trust, yet I believe that the information I have shared in these three blog pieces is enough to achieve my purpose: to bring your attention to and help you ponder on how much emphasis and effort you are putting into building and maintaining trust in your organisation.

Is what you are currently doing enough?

If you do not know the answer, be humble and ask your employees.

If you feel you do know the answer, the recipe is the same, ask your employees as well.

They are the soul of your business and the ones that can individually tell you exactly how the environment and the trust barometer of your organisation is.

Keep safe and… trust!

Cheers,
Dom

P.S.: For those of you willing to take a step further in your leadership journey, I recommend you check our most recent ebook Employees Are Our Greatest Opportunity… and Challenge: 7 Semco Practices to Build Trust in your Organisation (Starting Today). With a very practical and inspirational approach, you will get step-by-step instructions on how to follow some of Semco’s tested and time-proven practices to create an environment of trust and foster the engagement of our employees in today’s work settings.

Good reading!

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Domenico Pinto is the founder and principal coach at Semco Style Institute Australia. A global citizen and entrepreneur who is passionate about assisting businesses to grow sustainably and improve company culture. He has extensive coaching knowledge and experience, having trained over 4000 professionals in groups and one-on-one at all levels of an organisation, across a variety of industries, and in companies of various sizes. His main purpose is to help create better tomorrows for everyone. 

Connect with him on LinkedIn: Domenico A. Pinto

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